they love you,
you just don’t love yourself
Actually, I have a lot of people share their stories to me. When I was in senior high school, a completely new stranger even said “Wow, you are really different. I always talk to other but no one can click me as well as you”. I knew it was not joke nor an empty words since I felt her sincerity.
I don’t know what makes her think that way. Actually, I’m not that “wow”. I just stand next to her and give some personal opinion about the things she said. Maybe because she doesn’t have many friends or my carefree character give her that first impression.
Think about that now, I think I am not a good listener. Good listener (in my definition) is someone that sit besides you, hear all of your problem, give the “pukpuk” and make the person who share the story feel much better. And, from that definition I sure am not.
I talk when the person share the story, or even doing silly things. I ask him/her like “theen?”, “yoeeeh”, or doing joke around and make up some silly issues. Really bad yeah? but it just like my personality. I’d like to make the people feel easier to tell the stories. I don’t want them feel the burden.
Things that I always do is saying something different (or contrary) from the way s/he feels or thinks. Although the person that shares the stories is -for sure- my friend, I don’t want us to judge the problem / people easily. I want him/her in neutral position. I know that all of the people have reason why they do something so why you don’t try to think from others perspective.
Besides, I am sure enough when the person share the stories to me, I am not giving any solution. I let the person in problem to make his/her own decision. It’s not that I am not care. I just want s/he get the best things from his/herself. I love seeing people happy when they know that they make all by themselves.
Okaay, I know its ridiculous to write something above, but if you want a good listener in my definition above, don’t try to find me. I am not the one.